tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365304542230931817.post7378105830357358119..comments2023-08-08T12:09:37.149-04:00Comments on SFF Chat: A Book Lender's DilemmaSimchahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14730042073954228379noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365304542230931817.post-83999911229358757202011-07-01T17:17:31.350-04:002011-07-01T17:17:31.350-04:00Depends on who the borrower is. I've had books...Depends on who the borrower is. I've had books destroyed by people or never returned... so those will get no autographed books from me. I also have people that take care of things that don't belong to them, and those may have their pick of the litter. :)Melissa (Books and Things)https://www.blogger.com/profile/00074452958853212024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365304542230931817.post-73235348275900989482011-07-01T04:52:52.720-04:002011-07-01T04:52:52.720-04:00G in Berlin: You know, I guess I've really bee...G in Berlin: You know, I guess I've really been lucky in that this hasn't happened to me. Only once did a book get slightly ruined when I lent it to a friend. But I suppose if it happened often I would be a lot more cautious about lending out books. And I've never had someone not return a book. Though it helps that everyone I lend to lives in my neighborhood so I can always hunt them down, if I have to ;)<br />And I haven't read The Policemen's Union but it's been on my list for a while. Thanks for the reminder. I'll have to make an effort to get to it soon.Simchahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14730042073954228379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365304542230931817.post-58439405560713865422011-07-01T04:49:01.397-04:002011-07-01T04:49:01.397-04:00Jadey: I'd love to swap books but unfortunate...Jadey: I'd love to swap books but unfortunately I don't have too many English speaking friends to trade with, though it is a good alternative. <br /><br />Melissa: It's for this reason that I've never made much of an effort to get books signed. I really don't want to have books that are so valuable that I'm afraid to actually use them.<br /><br />Jenny: But, see, that's the thing. The average book can easily be replaced so I don't worry too much about lending them out. But then I don't get personally attached to each book as I get the sense that you do, so it might be a different situation for me.<br /><br />Stephanie: Why Selfish? That's actually a wonderful solution (wow, a signed Shadow of the Wind!!). If I actually had enough people that I thought I would want to lend out my more valuable books to I would probably just buy a regular copy to lend out. I think it's great that you did that for your mother.<br /><br /><br />Sniffly Kitty: Thanks for visiting! I can tell that you have really great taste in books. ;)<br /><br />Blodeuedd: Yeah, it does bother me when I go to someone's house and see a book that I've lent them not being cared for as I would like it to be. But, worse comes to worse I can always replace a book if something does happen to it. Well, most books.Simchahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14730042073954228379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365304542230931817.post-29487814399791815432011-07-01T04:40:02.814-04:002011-07-01T04:40:02.814-04:00I wouldn't do that, even for my best friend. W...I wouldn't do that, even for my best friend. When I am done reading my books for the fifth time, they look relatively new. My friends seem to use them as footballs. If I have a book I love, really love (like Chabon's Policemen's Union- I gave 4 copies out and own two ), I buy extra copies and give them out. Oterwise, books I loan are books I never expect to see again. Because, it seems as if I often don't.G in Berlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11168975470282994167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365304542230931817.post-81446483275474223052011-07-01T02:59:33.753-04:002011-07-01T02:59:33.753-04:00I do understand. I have lent books to friends and ...I do understand. I have lent books to friends and told them to be careful but still they come back all beaten down. Only I can break spines :(Blodeueddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03435479623560871881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365304542230931817.post-91273559828255060342011-07-01T02:01:36.212-04:002011-07-01T02:01:36.212-04:00@Stephanie I don't think it's particularly...@Stephanie I don't think it's particularly selfish if you buy her, her own copy!<br /><br />I definitely don't want to lend out any of the signed copies I have >.< Well, in part because I figure, if I'm ever in need of money, I can sell the books.<br /><br />BTW, Name of the Wind and The Warded Man are 2 of my favorites as well ^.^Sniffly Kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16625818304443563472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365304542230931817.post-53292438727310302512011-07-01T00:03:24.198-04:002011-07-01T00:03:24.198-04:00This same thing happened to me and you did better ...This same thing happened to me and you did better than I. It was my mom asking to borrow my autographed copy of Shadow of the Wind. I decided to buy her her own copy rather than let go of mine. What kind of selfish witch am I, to refuse my own mother???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365304542230931817.post-91066073804498941762011-06-30T21:37:49.032-04:002011-06-30T21:37:49.032-04:00You are a good friend. I'm incredibly eager to...You are a good friend. I'm incredibly eager to recommend books and far less eager to lend them. Only because I love my books and I want them to be looked after, and a lot of people read books incredibly viciously. I read them tenderly! I want them to stay safe and pretty. On the other hand, if I didn't have this reservation, I'd be lending my books to everyone I knew because I always want everyone to love the same books I do; and then I'd lose half my books to people who were never going to read them anyway.<br /><br />(When I broke up with my ex-boyfriend, he had to bring over an absurdly huge stack of books I had lent him. Like, really. There were enough to populate a small bookshelf.)Jennyhttp://jennysbooks.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365304542230931817.post-84645874725330940502011-06-30T20:13:13.620-04:002011-06-30T20:13:13.620-04:00I have this trouble too. I want to share the book...I have this trouble too. I want to share the books, but I'm afraid of the signed ones. Part of my mind thinks it's crazy, but I don't want it ruined either. I think it depends on the friends. I have some friends I would not, well I would think twice, but I would do it. And there are the others that I wouldn't lend an unsigned book to. But I find I wrestle with this in my mind as well. :) So you are not alone.Melissa (My World...in words and pages)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09621830513280969319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1365304542230931817.post-52748593230018780022011-06-30T19:09:25.991-04:002011-06-30T19:09:25.991-04:00I know exactly your dilemma, many of times I'v...I know exactly your dilemma, many of times I've not had my books returned due to friends moving or forgetting and I have so many books I struggles to keep track.<br /><br />I've recently begun swapping my books - my opinion is that even though I love the books, I have 20 new books on average coming a week and I never have to time to reread books, so I now just send them off.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com